tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6390107437127298472.post6922410029363758414..comments2023-04-12T09:34:43.840-06:00Comments on Moos Crossing: Them, They and Stereotypes...Melissahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06474584473012742915noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6390107437127298472.post-55140386592723956412010-11-24T23:11:02.615-07:002010-11-24T23:11:02.615-07:00I still stop up short sometimes when I reread what...I still stop up short sometimes when I reread what I've written. Sometimes 'they' and 'them' are just a group of people, one of whom has my heart! It does tick me off when Jack's doctor does it...I din't bring a group of 'them' to get 'their' medical needs met...I brought my son. Jack. This ONE! I try to preface my questions with "Do many children with Ds blah-blah-blah..." instead of the all inclusive way.Tracyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14069674597754485710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6390107437127298472.post-85407886905857979322010-11-23T15:02:38.757-07:002010-11-23T15:02:38.757-07:00Thank you for this post, Melissa! It really gives ...Thank you for this post, Melissa! It really gives me a chance to see what other people think about this topic. I really did not mean anything when I said "them". So, it really surprised me when that mommy said that to me. I would definately not say anything offensive towards people with Down syndrome, because as you know, I love Laura with my whole heart and I did not mean to offend anyone! I'm glad to get some positive feedback though...thank you <3Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07456343847176159860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6390107437127298472.post-33637246198809546722010-11-23T09:59:44.819-07:002010-11-23T09:59:44.819-07:00To me it all depends on how something is said. If ...To me it all depends on how something is said. If someone unknowingly refers to people with Ds as "them" or "they" and they just dont know any better it doesnt bother me...Just because I have a son with Ds doesnt mean all of the sudden everyone around me should know the correct way to speak and not hurt my feelings...I too had to learn how to speak and use people first language. <br />But if someone who I KNOW doesnt know anything about Ds and they rattle on as if they DO and just assume everyone with Ds is exactly the same with the same issues and the same personality, yeah, that bugs me.<br />Like Becca said, its all in the context of how something is said I think. <br />Good post!!JChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16040699928110444013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6390107437127298472.post-82248637801180385612010-11-23T09:16:58.647-07:002010-11-23T09:16:58.647-07:00Oh, wow, good question. I think it truly depends ...Oh, wow, good question. I think it truly depends on context. I don't think the context of the post on the forum you spoke of warranted a debate. I think that worked just fine there, referring to people with Ds as a group of people, not characterizing them in a particular way. I'm with Zoey's Mom, in that it IS sad when we start in on each other.Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14963099760885760598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6390107437127298472.post-67569191564941490152010-11-23T07:36:36.762-07:002010-11-23T07:36:36.762-07:00Sometimes I understand the use of the pronoun, oth...Sometimes I understand the use of the pronoun, other times it really bothers me. For example, the first time my mom met our PT she kept asking questions about how the PT did this with "them". I knew she was just over all assuming that all kids with DS received the same exact therapy "treatment" and that really bugged me. Something about the way she was asking...don't know. You're right though, sometimes it does make sense to refer to them as a group, other times it is stereotyping. I am working on not being so sensitive to innocent pronouns because you're right -it's not the r word. For that I am thankful.Deannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17349924733409797566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6390107437127298472.post-87596151108126479482010-11-22T23:14:13.197-07:002010-11-22T23:14:13.197-07:00I ride the fence on somethings... never the "...I ride the fence on somethings... never the "R" word though... won't ever let that slide.But you know,what really gets me is that you were on a DS forum and correct me if I am missing something but are we not all in this together?When we start in on EACH OTHER,well,then I seem to think we have a problem.Sad actually.Just my opinion.<br /><br />Now ... am I actually going to see you and that cutie of yours this weekend?I am nearly beside myself at the prospect!!!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04209967185741239050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6390107437127298472.post-54874791507282862662010-11-22T23:09:54.540-07:002010-11-22T23:09:54.540-07:00The only time it really gets to me is when it is u...The only time it really gets to me is when it is used by my mother. She works with some men with DS as a carer in their home.<br />Whenever I have anything to say about Samara, she says something along the lines of 'yes, they are like that', or 'they do tend to do that' etc. Drives me insane. I am talking to her about her GRANDDAUGHTER, not one of her clients! And she still can't see past her just being one of 'them'!Carolynnoreply@blogger.com